Motivation and Family
What motives me – a challenge, giving it a go!
First thing I ever tried, at the young age of about 9 or 10 years, I thought I could fly and was going to test my theory. I climbed onto the 16 foot roof of my fathers shed with a sheet, tied to my ankles and wrists. With no hesitation I jumped off, absolutely confident I was able to fly. I gave it a good go, but it didn’t work. Luckily my father hadn’t mowed for 6 months or more in the back yard, I landed on a big pile of grass. Nothing was broken except the theory I could fly. Now I consider the consequences before I, ‘give it a go’.
My life experience is my motivation. In my childhood I had many incidents that no child should endure including invasive abuse I received in the Navy as a young teenage lad (read more about my story).
This doesn’t define me as a person. This motivates me as a person. I once read that the world needs more inspirational stories and I hope that the story of ‘My Great Outback Adventure’ is just that. A story that will provide hope to others and show that the image of the ‘abused’ is not about a whole life wrecked.
“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere; and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself” Anon
Thinking of my 32 years as a father, of which 25 have been spent constantly with 4 girls, these words come to mind: ‘You want to die my hair blonde….WTF’, ‘Oh My God’, consistently on the go, and finding it difficult to get anyone to run with me. It has given me a completely different direction in life – in particular I learnt that it is always good to go the way they (the girls) tell you too, rather than trying to direct them.
I have been married to my wife Pam since 1978. She is the guide, the sounding board for the girls. They have told her things that would never reach by my ears. She is always there for us all. We now have two beautiful grandchildren, Maddie and Harry.
I look at the four girls, Alanna, Emily, Elysse and Angela, I’m amazed at their loveliness. Sharing with the girls, being there for them any time of the day, never questioning (which is sometimes painful) I have four absolutely awesome girls, now young bright woman taking on the world themselves.
Our friendship is special to me. The only rule I prescribed to the girls was, ‘You can do whatever you wish BUT you will suffer the consequences either good or bad’. If the consequence was; I became cranky or you went to jail so be it. Funny, I now here the girls say that exact statement to others.
My childhood – parts of it good and parts of it bad, has given me a perspective and made me the person I am today. Being a son, a brother, a husband, a father, a grandfather and a friend is not an easy, straight forward journey. In the end it is what you make of it.