Motivation and Family
What motivates me??????
A challenge, giving it a go!
I was about 9 or 10 years old when I tried my first challenge. I thought I could fly and was going to test my theory. I climbed onto the 16-foot roof of my father’s shed with a sheet, tied to my ankles and wrists. With no hesitation I jumped off, confident that I was able to fly. I gave it a good go, but it didn’t work. Luckily my father hadn’t mowed for 6 months or more so I landed on a big pile of grass, nothing was broken except the theory that I could fly. Now a days, there is a lot more planning and I consider the consequences before I ‘give it a go’.
My life experiences are my motivation. Throughout my childhood I suffered many incidents that no child should endure including invasive abuse I received in the Navy as a young teenage lad. (Read more about my story).
This does not define me as a person. This motivates me as a person.
I once read that the world needs more inspirational stories and I hope that following my adventures provides just that. A story that will provide hope to others and show that the image of the ‘abused’ is not a whole life wrecked.
“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere; and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself” Anon
Thinking of my many years as a father of 4 girls, these words come to mind: “You want to dye my hair blonde…..WTF”, “Oh My God”
It has given me a completely different direction in life – in particular I learnt that it is always good to go the way they (my girls) tell me, rather than trying to direct them.
I have been married to my wife Pam since 1978. She is the guide, the sounding board for the girls. They have told her things that would never reach my ears. She is always there for us all. We now have two beautiful grandchildren, Maddie and Harry.
I look at the girls, Alanna, Emily, Elysse and Angela, I’m amazed at their loveliness. Sharing with the girls, being there for them any time of the day, never questioning (which is sometimes painful) I have four absolutely awesome girls, now young bright women taking on the world themselves.
Our friendship is special to me. The only rule I prescribed to the girls was, “You can do whatever you wish BUT you will suffer the consequences, either good or bad.” If the consequence was: I became cranky or you went to jail – then so be it. Funny, I now hear the girls say that exact statement to others.
My childhood – parts of it good and parts of it bad, has given me a perspective and made me the person I am today. Being a son, a brother, a husband, a father, a grandfather and a friend is not an easy, straight forward journey. In the end it is what you make of it.